How to Add A Friend On Facebook
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Pusahma satu
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Sunday, July 15, 2018
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I absolutely enjoy discussing Facebook etiquette. It always appears to be a controversial topic-- and for good reason. For the life of me I cannot determine why people put a lot stock into their Facebook life.
How To Add A Friend On Facebook
" Did you see my status today? Why didn't you see my status? When will you Like my status?"
Yeesh, enough already!
I even wrote an article called "Real" Friends vs. Facebook Friends that talked about how worked up some of us get about adding "good friends" to our network.
However including buddies to your list is all a part of the Facebook fun, right? Wrong!
It's not a race, it's not a competition, and you should not be too excited to send a buddy demand to someone you simply fulfilled or only spoke to for 7 seconds in the elevator. So, prior to you spend hours waiting anxiously in front of your computer to see if Beth-- who you have never talked to but see in the corridor every day - will accept your request, let's draw back the veil of Facebook friendship.
Here are my leading 3 Quick and Dirty Tips on how rapidly you can legitimately good friend somebody on Facebook:
Tip 1: The New Romance
Okay class, by a show of hands, how numerous of you have stalked someone on Facebook?
Come on now, I do not see every hand up ... due to the fact that it ought to be.
Facebook stalking (in the safe/non-threatening sense) is when you look up a total stranger, or someone you loosely know, and take a self-guided trip of their page. The picture album entitled "Summer season 2013"-- don't mind if I do!
This specifically happens when you will go on a date with somebody or have actually just gone a first date. So as you're exchanging stories about what you prefer to do on the weekends, a thought comes to mind, "Should I good friend them?" Then you teeter backward and forward, not exactly sure if you should make the first relocation. It's like a social video game of ping pong with one side of your brain saying, "Obviously! Go all out, they'll like it!" and the other side saying, "Wait ... I'll look like a stalker."
After a date is over, you generally have a great idea of whether there will be a second date. And therein lies your response. If you can see this person being a "buddy"-- either platonically or with advantages - then it's a yes. Nevertheless, if you believe to yourself, "I'm not exactly sure I wish to see this person again," then the answer is probably "No" to including them as a Facebook pal.
Let's be truthful, you won't get an award for having 10,000 friends on Facebook, and you will not be kicked out for having only 10. If you're fretted about whether to extend a good friend demand or not, make certain that you can genuinely call them a pal in the first place (or a minimum of that they're someone with good friend potential). When you include an individual to your facebook circle, they'll see whatever you do. They'll find out if you're "in a relationship" and if you put "it's complicated" as your status while dating them. They have access to your every relocation ... awwwwkward.
So if you see this opting for more than a few dates or remaining "just good friends," then go all out. However, if there is any doubt, do not feel obligated to accept their request or extend one yourself. You do not owe a complete stranger a window into your social life.
Tip 2: The Office "Buddy".
Facebook in the office resembles diving in an old boat wreck-- you never ever know exactly what freaky things you'll discover around each dark turn when you dig deep enough.
Take one Modern Manners Guy Facebook friend, Mike, who asked me about friending a nice girl named Stephanie, who works in the cube throughout from him. He said she is funny, always happy to assist a fellow coworker, never ever grumbles about needing to work late, and is generally the perfect colleague. Nevertheless, the one thing Mike didn't point out was that he's only been at this task for 6 days and has yet to utter a single word to Miss Wonderful. He looked her up on Facebook (Stalker, table for one!) and it turns out they have a lot in typical. Oh, yeah, except for one minor information like actually being pals!
The workplace is no place to take risks with Facebook. If you are not buddies in reality, you can't be good friends on Facebook. It's that simple. So in Mike's case, I encouraged him to hold off until he had at least one discussion with Stephanie where they linked on a non-work problems such as food, TV, movies, hobbies, etc. This is where a genuine friendship happens. Not just discussing spreadsheets or conferences.
I told him that if Stephanie received his good friend demand without ever having contact with him in the past, she would most likely believe 3 things:.
- Mike - who is Mike? Oh, wait, is it that person across from me? We're not buddies.
- Wait a second, did he look my name up on Facebook simply to discover me? Ewww.
- If I do not accept he'll understand since we see each other every day and it will be uncomfortable. I don't like him for putting me in this position.
See where I'm going here?
If you are really itching to make the "buddy" relocation, begin an enjoyable discussion regularly - in individual. As you do this, raise something about Facebook like, "Oh, examine this out, my good friend just posted the funniest image of his pup on Facebook." Now we're getting somewhere!
Then, while on the subject of Facebook, don't hesitate to ask about whether the individual is on it or not. See how they respond and aim to read it from there. Continue even more if-- and only if-- you feel there is an actual relationship other than, "Can you inform me where the meeting room is?".
Tip 3: Wacky Family members.
Here's a couple of realities about social networks:.
- 60% of 50-60-year-olds are active on social media.
- in the 65+ bracket, 43% are utilizing social networks.
So there should be no surprise that Facebook particularly is not a "kid thing." Many older people are connecting to relatives of any ages to link and catch up on the latest news in their life. And that's fantastic!
However, let's look at the case of one Modern Manners Man fan called Angela. She is a devoted "Facebooker" and shares whatever with her good friends (her words). She jokes that she actually overshares in some cases. At a current family event, Angela reconnected with a cousin who is 10 years older. Angela got house and sent a friend request, her cousin accepted, however things went south a week later on. Turns out, her cousin was not a big fan of Angela's lifestyle. This cousin would send out messages informing Angela that she disagreed with her options, her images, her status updates. Unexpectedly, Angela ended up being Member of the family Enemy # 1, all due to the fact that she published bathing fit images from her journey to Mexico.
The important things about family members is that they have the tendency to get a totally free pass when it pertains to sharing their viewpoints of you. Pals might keep back, or be more protected with their sensations, but loved ones - man, oh man, they have less of a buffer (which, by the method, I do not believe is fair - but that's a topic for another episode).
For Angela, this is a case of not properly determining your relationship with the person before sending out a friend request. Friending somebody on Facebook sounds very simple: "I like this individual-- why not add them?" However, we have the tendency to forget that not everyone will appreciate our sense of humor or what we share. When we pal somebody before discovering whether they're on our wavelength, we take the risk of offending them if they do not share our views. Always keep in mind that your innocent post might not be so innocent to somebody with a various outlook on life. And now that you're "pals," they can comment on it.