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Pusahma satu
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Thursday, July 26, 2018
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I definitely like discussing Facebook etiquette. It always appears to be a controversial topic-- and for great factor. For the life of me I cannot determine why individuals put so much stock into their Facebook life.
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" Did you see my status today? Why didn't you see my status? When will you Like my status?"
Yeesh, enough currently!
I even wrote a post called "Real" Buddies vs. Facebook Pals that discussed how developed some of us get about adding "pals" to our network.
But adding good friends to your list is all a part of the Facebook enjoyable, right? Incorrect!
It's not a race, it's not a competition, and you should not be too excited to send a pal request to somebody you just met or only talked to for 7 seconds in the elevator. So, prior to you spend hours waiting anxiously in front of your computer to see if Beth-- who you have never ever spoken to but see in the corridor every day - will accept your request, let's pull back the veil of Facebook friendship.
Here are my leading 3 Quick and Dirty Tips on how rapidly you can legally buddy somebody on Facebook:
Tip 1: The New Love
Okay class, by a show of hands, how many of you have stalked somebody on Facebook?
Come on now, I don't see every single hand up ... due to the fact that it must be.
Facebook stalking (in the safe/non-threatening sense) is when you look up a total stranger, or someone you loosely know, and take a self-guided tour of their page. The photo album entitled "Summer 2013"-- don't mind if I do!
This especially takes place when you will go on a date with someone or have actually just gone a first date. So as you're exchanging stories about exactly what you want to do on the weekends, a thought enters your mind, "Should I buddy them?" Then you teeter back and forth, uncertain if you ought to make the very first move. It resembles a social game of ping pong with one side of your brain saying, "Naturally! Go for it, they'll like it!" and the opposite saying, "Wait ... I'll look like a stalker."
After a date is over, you usually have a great idea of whether or not there will be a second date. And therein lies your response. If you can see this person being a "friend"-- either platonically or with advantages - then it's a yes. However, if you think to yourself, "I'm not exactly sure I want to see this person once again," then the response is probably "No" to adding them as a Facebook buddy.
Let's be truthful, you won't get an award for having 10,000 good friends on Facebook, and you won't be tossed out for having only 10. If you're stressed over whether to extend a friend request or not, make sure that you can really call them a friend in the first location (or at least that they're someone with buddy capacity). When you include a person to your facebook circle, they'll see everything you do. They'll discover if you're "in a relationship" and if you put "it's made complex" as your status while dating them. They have access to your every move ... awwwwkward.
So if you see this opting for more than a couple of dates or remaining "just friends," then go for it. However, if there is any doubt, do not feel obligated to accept their request or extend one yourself. You don't owe a complete stranger a window into your social life.
Tip 2: The Office "Good friend".
Facebook in the workplace resembles diving in an old boat wreck-- you never ever know what freaky things you'll find around each dark turn when you dig deep enough.
Take one Modern Good manners Man Facebook friend, Mike, who asked me about friending a great young female named Stephanie, who works in the cube across from him. He stated she is amusing, always ready to assist a fellow coworker, never complains about having to work late, and is normally the ideal coworker. Nevertheless, the one thing Mike didn't discuss was that he's just been at this task for 6 days and has yet to utter a single word to Miss Terrific. He looked her up on Facebook (Stalker, table for one!) and it ends up they have a lot in typical. Oh, yeah, other than for one minor information like in fact being pals!
The office is no place to take threats with Facebook. If you are not buddies in reality, you cannot be friends on Facebook. It's that simple. So in Mike's case, I recommended him to hold back till he had at least one conversation with Stephanie where they linked on a non-work issues such as food, TV, motion pictures, hobbies, etc. This is where a real relationship comes about. Not just discussing spreadsheets or conferences.
I informed him that if Stephanie received his pal demand without ever having contact with him in the past, she would probably believe three things:.
- Mike - who is Mike? Oh, wait, is it that man throughout from me? We're not friends.
- Wait a 2nd, did he look my name up on Facebook just to find me? Ewww.
- If I do not accept he'll understand due to the fact that we see each other every day and it will be unpleasant. I don't like him for putting me in this position.
See where I'm going here?
If you are actually itching to make the "buddy" move, begin an enjoyable discussion regularly - face to face. As you do this, raise something about Facebook like, "Oh, check this out, my good friend just posted the funniest photo of his puppy on Facebook." Now we're getting someplace!
Then, while on the subject of Facebook, don't hesitate to ask about whether the person is on it or not. See how they respond and try to read it from there. Proceed even more if-- and only if-- you feel there is a real friendship aside from, "Can you tell me where the conference space is?".
Tip 3: Goofy Family members.
Here's a number of realities about social media:.
- 60% of 50-60-year-olds are active on social media.
- in the 65+ bracket, 43% are using social networks.
So there must be no surprise that Facebook particularly is no longer a "kid thing." Lots of older people are reaching out to loved ones of any ages to connect and capture up on the newest news in their life. And that's fantastic!
Nevertheless, let's look at the case of one Modern Manners Person fan called Angela. She is an avid "Facebooker" and shares everything with her friends (her words). She jokes that she really overshares often. At a recent household gathering, Angela reconnected with a cousin who is Ten Years older. Angela got home and sent out a buddy request, her cousin accepted, but things went south a week later. Ends up, her cousin was not a huge fan of Angela's lifestyle. This cousin would send out messages informing Angela that she disagreed with her options, her pictures, her status updates. All of a sudden, Angela became Relative Enemy # 1, all because she published swimsuit images from her trip to Mexico.
The important things about family members is that they have the tendency to get a complimentary pass when it comes to sharing their viewpoints of you. Pals might hold back, or be more protected with their feelings, however loved ones - man, oh man, they have less of a buffer (which, by the way, I do not think is fair - however that's a subject for another episode).
For Angela, this is a case of not properly measuring your relationship with the person prior to sending a friend demand. Friending somebody on Facebook sounds really easy: "I like this person-- why not include them?" However, we tend to forget that not everyone will value our funny bone or exactly what we share. When we good friend somebody prior to discovering whether they're on our wavelength, we take the threat of upseting them if they do not share our views. Always remember that your innocent post might not be so innocent to someone with a different outlook on life. Today that you're "friends," they can discuss it.