Facebook Adding Friends for Me
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Alfian Adi Saputra
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Wednesday, June 13, 2018
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I definitely like talking about Facebook rules. It constantly seems to be a controversial topic-- and for excellent reason. For the life of me I can't figure out why people put a lot stock into their Facebook life.
Facebook Adding Friends For Me
" Did you see my status today? Why didn't you see my status? When will you Like my status?"
Yeesh, enough currently!
I even wrote an article called "Genuine" Pals vs. Facebook Buddies that talked about how worked up a few of us get about including "friends" to our network.
But adding pals to your list is all a part of the Facebook enjoyable, right? Incorrect!
It's not a race, it's not a competitors, and you should not be too excited to send out a buddy demand to somebody you just met or just talked with for 7 seconds in the elevator. So, before you spend hours waiting anxiously in front of your computer system to see if Beth-- who you have actually never ever spoken to but see in the corridor every day - will accept your request, let's pull back the veil of Facebook friendship.
Here are my top 3 Quick and Dirty Tips on how rapidly you can legitimately buddy somebody on Facebook:
Tip 1: The New Love
Okay class, by a show of hands, the number of of you have stalked somebody on Facebook?
Begin now, I don't see each and every single hand up ... due to the fact that it ought to be.
Facebook stalking (in the safe/non-threatening sense) is when you look up a total stranger, or somebody you loosely know, and take a self-guided trip of their page. The photo album entitled "Summertime 2013"-- do not mind if I do!
This particularly happens when you are about to go on a date with somebody or have actually simply gone a first date. So as you're exchanging stories about exactly what you prefer to do on the weekends, a thought comes to mind, "Should I buddy them?" Then you teeter back and forth, not exactly sure if you ought to make the very first move. It resembles a social video game of ping pong with one side of your brain saying, "Of course! Go all out, they'll love it!" and the other side saying, "Wait ... I'll appear like a stalker."
After a date is over, you generally have a great idea of whether there will be a second date. And therein lies your response. If you can see this individual being a "pal"-- either platonically or with benefits - then it's a yes. However, if you believe to yourself, "I'm uncertain I wish to see this individual again," then the response is most likely "No" to adding them as a Facebook buddy.
Let's be sincere, you won't get an award for having 10,000 good friends on Facebook, and you will not be kicked out for having just 10. If you're worried about whether to extend a friend request or not, ensure that you can truly call them a friend in the first location (or a minimum of that they're someone with buddy potential). When you add an individual to your facebook circle, they'll see everything you do. They'll discover if you're "in a relationship" and if you put "it's complicated" as your status while dating them. They have access to your every move ... awwwwkward.
So if you see this choosing more than a couple of dates or remaining "simply buddies," then go for it. Nevertheless, if there is any doubt, do not feel obligated to accept their request or extend one yourself. You do not owe a complete stranger a window into your social life.
Tip 2: The Office "Friend".
Facebook in the workplace is like diving in an old boat wreck-- you never know exactly what freaky things you'll find around each dark turn when you dig deep enough.
Take one Modern Good manners Man Facebook good friend, Mike, who asked me about friending a nice young female named Stephanie, who works in the cube across from him. He said she is funny, always going to assist a fellow colleague, never ever grumbles about having to work late, and is typically the best coworker. Nevertheless, the one thing Mike didn't mention was that he's just been at this job for 6 days and has yet to utter a single word to Miss Terrific. He looked her up on Facebook (Stalker, table for one!) and it turns out they have a lot in common. Oh, yeah, other than for one minor information like actually being good friends!
The workplace is no location to take threats with Facebook. If you are not pals in reality, you cannot be pals on Facebook. It's that basic. So in Mike's case, I encouraged him to hold off up until he had at least one discussion with Stephanie where they connected on a non-work concerns such as food, TV, movies, hobbies, and so on. This is where a real relationship comes about. Not simply talking about spreadsheets or conferences.
I told him that if Stephanie got his pal request without ever having contact with him before, she would most likely think 3 things:.
- Mike - who is Mike? Oh, wait, is it that man across from me? We're not pals.
- Wait a 2nd, did he look my name up on Facebook just to find me? Ewww.
- If I do not accept he'll understand because we see each other every day and it will be uncomfortable. I don't like him for putting me in this position.
See where I'm going here?
If you are truly itching to make the "friend" move, begin an enjoyable discussion regularly - personally. As you do this, bring up something about Facebook like, "Oh, inspect this out, my pal simply published the funniest image of his young puppy on Facebook." Now we're getting somewhere!
Then, while on the subject of Facebook, don't hesitate to inquire about whether the individual is on it or not. See how they react and attempt to read it from there. Proceed even more if-- and just if-- you feel there is a real relationship aside from, "Can you inform me where the conference space is?".
Tip 3: Crazy Relatives.
Here's a few facts about social networks:.
- 60% of 50-60-year-olds are active on social media.
- in the 65+ bracket, 43% are using social networks.
So there ought to be no surprise that Facebook especially is not a "kid thing." Numerous older people are reaching out to family members of any ages to link and capture up on the most recent news in their life. Which's great!
Nevertheless, let's look at the case of one Modern Manners Guy fan called Angela. She is a devoted "Facebooker" and shares everything with her good friends (her words). She jokes that she actually overshares in some cases. At a current household event, Angela reconnected with a cousin who is 10 years older. Angela got home and sent out a good friend request, her cousin accepted, but things went south a week later on. Turns out, her cousin was not a huge fan of Angela's way of life. This cousin would send out messages telling Angela that she disagreed with her choices, her pictures, her status updates. Unexpectedly, Angela became Relative Opponent # 1, all due to the fact that she published swimsuit photos from her journey to Mexico.
The important things about family members is that they have the tendency to get a complimentary pass when it comes to sharing their viewpoints of you. Friends may hold back, or be more guarded with their feelings, but relatives - male, oh man, they have less of a buffer (which, by the method, I do not believe is fair - but that's a subject for another episode).
For Angela, this is a case of not properly measuring your relationship with the individual prior to sending a buddy request. Friending somebody on Facebook sounds really easy: "I like this person-- why not add them?" However, we tend to forget that not everyone will appreciate our sense of humor or exactly what we share. When we buddy somebody prior to learning whether or not they're on our wavelength, we take the danger of offending them if they do not share our views. Constantly bear in mind that your innocent post may not be so innocent to someone with a various outlook on life. Today that you're "buddies," they have the right to talk about it.