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Alfian Adi Saputra
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Saturday, June 2, 2018
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I absolutely love discussing Facebook etiquette. It constantly appears to be a controversial topic-- and for great factor. For the life of me I can't determine why individuals put so much stock into their Facebook life.
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" Did you see my status today? Why didn't you see my status? When will you Like my status?"
Yeesh, enough already!
I even wrote an article called "Genuine" Pals vs. Facebook Friends that talked about how worked up some of us get about including "good friends" to our network.
However adding pals to your list is all a part of the Facebook enjoyable, right? Incorrect!
It's not a race, it's not a competition, and you should not be too eager to send a pal demand to someone you just satisfied or just talked to for seven seconds in the elevator. So, before you invest hours waiting anxiously in front of your computer to see if Beth-- who you have never ever talked to but see in the hallway every day - will accept your demand, let's draw back the veil of Facebook friendship.
Here are my leading 3 Quick and Dirty Tips on how rapidly you can legally good friend someone on Facebook:
Tip 1: The New Love
Okay class, by a show of hands, the number of of you have stalked somebody on Facebook?
Come on now, I do not see each hand up ... since it needs to be.
Facebook stalking (in the safe/non-threatening sense) is when you search for a total stranger, or someone you loosely know, and take a self-guided tour of their page. The photo album entitled "Summer season 2013"-- don't mind if I do!
This specifically happens when you are about to go on a date with someone or have simply gone a first date. So as you're exchanging stories about what you prefer to do on the weekends, an idea enters your mind, "Should I good friend them?" Then you teeter backward and forward, not sure if you must make the first move. It resembles a social video game of ping pong with one side of your brain saying, "Of course! Go all out, they'll love it!" and the other side saying, "Wait ... I'll look like a stalker."
After a date is over, you typically have a smart idea of whether there will be a second date. And therein lies your answer. If you can see this individual being a "good friend"-- either platonically or with advantages - then it's a yes. However, if you think to yourself, "I'm not sure I wish to see this individual again," then the response is probably "No" to adding them as a Facebook friend.
Let's be sincere, you will not get an award for having 10,000 good friends on Facebook, and you will not be kicked out for having only 10. If you're stressed over whether to extend a good friend demand or not, ensure that you can truly call them a good friend in the very first location (or at least that they're someone with good friend capacity). When you add a person to your facebook circle, they'll see whatever you do. They'll find out if you're "in a relationship" and if you put "it's made complex" as your status while dating them. They have access to your every relocation ... awwwwkward.
So if you see this opting for more than a couple of dates or remaining "just pals," then go for it. However, if there is any doubt, do not feel obligated to accept their request or extend one yourself. You do not owe a stranger a window into your social life.
Tip 2: The Office "Good friend".
Facebook in the workplace is like scuba diving in an old boat wreck-- you never ever know exactly what freaky things you'll discover around each dark turn when you dig deep enough.
Take one Modern Good manners Man Facebook good friend, Mike, who asked me about friending a good girl named Stephanie, who works in the cube across from him. He said she is funny, constantly ready to help out a fellow colleague, never complains about needing to work late, and is generally the perfect coworker. Nevertheless, the something Mike didn't mention was that he's only been at this job for six days and has yet to utter a single word to Miss Wonderful. He looked her up on Facebook (Stalker, table for one!) and it ends up they have a lot in typical. Oh, yeah, other than for one small detail like in fact being good friends!
The office is no location to take dangers with Facebook. If you are not friends in real life, you cannot be pals on Facebook. It's that easy. So in Mike's case, I encouraged him to hold back up until he had at least one discussion with Stephanie where they linked on a non-work concerns such as food, TELEVISION, motion pictures, hobbies, and so on. This is where a real relationship comes about. Not just discussing spreadsheets or conferences.
I informed him that if Stephanie received his good friend request without ever having contact with him in the past, she would probably think three things:.
- Mike - who is Mike? Oh, wait, is it that person across from me? We're not pals.
- Wait a 2nd, did he look my name up on Facebook simply to discover me? Ewww.
- If I don't accept he'll know due to the fact that we see each other every day and it will be uneasy. I don't like him for putting me in this position.
See where I'm going here?
If you are truly itching to make the "friend" relocation, begin a pleasant conversation on a routine basis - in person. As you do this, raise something about Facebook like, "Oh, check this out, my buddy simply published the funniest image of his young puppy on Facebook." Now we're getting somewhere!
Then, while on the topic of Facebook, feel totally free to inquire about whether the person is on it or not. See how they react and attempt to read it from there. Proceed further if-- and only if-- you feel there is a real relationship aside from, "Can you inform me where the meeting room is?".
Tip 3: Wacky Relatives.
Here's a few realities about social networks:.
- 60% of 50-60-year-olds are active on social media.
- in the 65+ bracket, 43% are using social networks.
So there need to be not a surprise that Facebook especially is not a "kid thing." Lots of older individuals are reaching out to family members of any ages to link and catch up on the latest news in their life. And that's terrific!
However, let's take a look at the case of one Modern Manners Guy fan named Angela. She is a passionate "Facebooker" and shares everything with her buddies (her words). She jokes that she really overshares sometimes. At a recent household gathering, Angela reconnected with a cousin who is 10 years older. Angela got home and sent a good friend demand, her cousin accepted, however things went south a week later on. Turns out, her cousin was not a big fan of Angela's lifestyle. This cousin would send messages informing Angela that she disagreed with her choices, her images, her status updates. Suddenly, Angela ended up being Relative Opponent # 1, all because she published swimsuit photos from her trip to Mexico.
The thing about relatives is that they have the tendency to get a free pass when it comes to sharing their viewpoints of you. Friends might keep back, or be more guarded with their feelings, but family members - guy, oh man, they have less of a buffer (which, by the method, I do not think is reasonable - but that's a topic for another episode).
For Angela, this is a case of not properly determining your relationship with the individual prior to sending a pal demand. Friending somebody on Facebook sounds really simple: "I like this person-- why not add them?" However, we have the tendency to forget that not everyone will appreciate our sense of humor or exactly what we share. When we pal somebody prior to discovering whether or not they're on our wavelength, we take the risk of offending them if they do not share our views. Always keep in mind that your innocent post may not be so innocent to somebody with a various outlook on life. But now that you're "pals," they have the right to comment on it.